A guide back to the body, presence, and truth
Embodiment mentor · EABP and Gestalt psychotherapist
For more than 20 years I have accompanied people on the path toward deeper contact with themselves, through the body, emotions, relationships, and sexuality. I believe real transformation happens when we integrate all parts of ourselves, both light and shadow.
If you are holding this guide, chances are something in you knows that something is missing. Maybe it is connection with your own body. Maybe it is the freedom to express what you truly want. Maybe it is simply permission to feel fully alive.
"Sexuality is not only what we do in bed. It is the way we walk through the world. It is our relationship with our own life force."
Through years of working with women, couples, and individuals, I have seen the same truth over and over again: suppressing sexuality does not protect us, it wounds us. What we learn to hide, we also learn to forget. What we forget becomes unfamiliar. And what is unfamiliar becomes frightening.
This guide is not about becoming “better in bed.” It is about returning home, to your body, your desire, and your truth.
I will guide you through seven steps. Some will feel comforting. Some may feel uncomfortable. All of them matter.
Let’s begin.
The first step is not to go anywhere. The first step is to stop and look.
Where are you right now in relationship to your sexuality? Without judgment. Without a plan for changing. Just, where are you?
Take a journal or a blank piece of paper and answer honestly:
This is not an exercise in finding problems. It is an exercise in presence. You cannot move from a place you refuse to see.
Some people will feel shame here. That is okay. Shame is often a sign that we have broken a rule, even if that rule was never truly ours.
Most of us live from the neck up, in thoughts, plans, tension, and control. The body becomes a vehicle we feed, dress, criticize, and forget.
But the body is not a container. The body is home. And home needs to be inhabited again.
Stop. Close your eyes. Put your hands where you feel the least connection:
Do not try to force a feeling. Just be there. Your body knows when you are present. That is enough.
This sounds simple, but if you do it regularly, something beautiful begins to happen: the body starts trusting that it is welcome, safe, and loved.
Naming is power. When we name something, it stops being vague. And what is vague is often what frightens us most.
What is missing in your sexuality? Not what you think you “should” want, but what you actually long for?
Write freely. Do not filter. No one else needs to read it.
This list is not a promise to anyone else. It is a conversation with yourself, and that conversation is the beginning of change.
To know what you want, you also need to know what you do not want. Boundaries are not walls that shut us down, they are doors that protect what matters.
Answer honestly:
The body is a map. But most of us were never taught how to read it. We know where our hands, legs, and heart are, but what about the inner landscapes?
This is not about self-touch as a quick fix. It is about self-exploration as a path.
Set aside time. Soft light. Silence. Explore without a goal:
Sexuality does not live in a vacuum. It lives in relationships, with a partner, but also with ourselves.
Many intimacy problems are not technical, they are relational and communicative. We do not know how to say what we want, what we do not want, or what we feel.
Practice saying these out loud, first to yourself, then with a partner:
These seven steps are not linear. You will not go through them once and be “done.” They are doorways you may walk through again and again, each time more deeply.
The path toward healthy sexuality is not about arrival. It is about opening.
Write a promise to yourself:
“I promise that I will...”
Let it be realistic. Let it be gentle. Let it be yours.
If you want to go deeper, I am here.
This guide is only a beginning. If you want to go further, I invite you into the Conscious Body process.
A guided path for women who want to restore contact with the body, Eros, and their own power through lived practice, not only theory.
Contact GoranaGorana Radetić
Embodiment mentor · EABP and Gestalt psychotherapist
goranaradetic.com
Osijek, Croatia